Just Listen To One Person. Yourself
Happy Tuesday, folks! How is it going? All good here amid all the global crisis going on with the Ukraine-Russian conflict, and of course our inner conflicts that never cease themselves from happening. As long as you can succeed in diminishing those thoughts that cause you any kind of pain and suffering, terrific, but we’ll have to admit that’s hardly the case. Often we fall prey to these condescending thoughts and drive ourselves insane.
Truth to be told, it’s far easier to say things that no storm is capable of shaking you, it’s how you react to a calamity that shakes you. Frankly, Isn’t it easier said than done? I mean how many of us can respond with a smile when we are slapped on one cheek! To top it up there are people close and far from you to place their opinions on every bit of your life. Sure, I don’t doubt their intentions of helping you, but unless they are really well versed in your line of work, how is their opinion going to help you in any way?
In my professional space never in my life did I ever worry about money. In fact I was so naive that in my first job I was stupid enough to ask the HR to give me whatever salary she felt like, I was just happy that they were giving me an opportunity to work with them. And of course, they’d take huge advantage of it, having fully understood that this lass could be made to work far more at a cheaper compensation.
Frankly I never had any problems with any of it, as little did I know that I was being exploited by the so-called bourgeoise. And who was responsible for it? No one but myself. Who stopped myself from seeking the compensation that I deserved? No one but myself. Huh! It took me just 7 years to realise that I have been fooled my entire life, just for my lack of understanding.
Today after having completed so many years in the corporate space I have decided to put my foot down and ask for a desired compensation. The aftermath is of course most companies ghosting me, HRs reaching out to me asking me for my documents and then again never bothering to give me an update about my candidature. My family gets anxious and tells me that it’s perhaps because I ask for a higher compensation that they never reach out to me and cut all ties.
When I try reasoning that I haven’t been asking them more than what I am worth and more than what is the budget for their particular role, they frown and tell me that it’s perhaps time that I must learn to compromise, and settle for what they have to offer me. I laugh to myself, nod my head and finally say whatever I feel is correct and what I deserve. I understand that it has taken me a long time and years of exploitation to reach this stage, and when I have reached here I am not willing to let go of this newly found self.
These days I am smiling and nodding to the words of everyone, but listening just to one person. Myself. Maybe you should start too.